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Westley: A Birth Story

What a month it’s been! The last few weeks of pregnancy were rough on me. So rough that by the time Westley was induced at 4 days overdue, 50% of my legs were covered in a rash (poison oak, PUPPS, something else?) and I was so incredibly miserable from that. Basically, my immune system gave up on me, so I scheduled the induction. Our story is one that still scares me to think about. It was the longest, hardest day of my life, but also the happiest. Our little family went through things that day that I will never forget.

The day before going to the hospital, I began having second thoughts. I was scared of being induced, worried about the possible complications, thought I was cheating my way into labor, and sad that I was taking away our “Oh my gosh, I’m in labor!” moment. In the end, I calmed down and let it happen as planned.

I was dilated to 2cm and 80% effaced for an entire month before getting induced, so as soon as they put me on the drip at 8am, I started contracting and my water broke on its own shortly thereafter. Y’all, I was so excited about my water breaking on its own! It was nice to have that moment of surprise in such a planned and scheduled event. the contractions got harder and I was progressing, slowly but surely.

By 4pm, the contractions were so intense and awful that I just KNEW I was already 10cm and ready to push. I mean, what I was feeling just HAD to be the end of labor. Keep in mind, I wanted an unmedicated birth, so I was feeling absolutely everything…and “everything” turned out to be super intense back labor. Fun times, let me tell you.

I told Drew to get the nurse because it hurt too much and it must be time to push. I cried when she checked me because of the pain, only to find out that I was just 4cm and nowhere near ready. That’s when I broke down and begged for an epidural. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I gave up on my unmedicated birth plan after 8 hours, but I was not upset with myself for it. I tried, which was what I wanted to do. I couldn’t have even gotten through the first hour without Drew by my side. He was the most amazing coach. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner to have gone through this with.

After the meds, things got so much better…for a little while. I was still progressing, but Westley had other plans. He was no closer to my birth canal at 7pm than when I came in 12 hours earlier. My doctor wanted to give it a little more time to see if that would change. She didn’t want to jump right into a c-section without absolutely trying everything else.

The next few hours are a blur to me. They were the most intense hours of my life. My blood pressure began to drop, which made me very sick. Also, Westley was in distress, causing the nurses to constantly move me every which way to hopefully alleviate his stress and get his heartbeat back on track. After a few hours of this and still no drop from our little man, the doctor came to the conclusion that the cord was most likely wrapped around his neck in such a way that it was keeping him from moving down. At 10pm, after 14 hours of labor, the decision was made to perform a c-section immediately.

That’s when things got really scary. This is when I had sort of an out of body experience. My doctor was in the middle of telling us all about the surgery when my BP dropped to the point that I became very ill. My body began to shake uncontrollably, my vision blurred, my arms and hands were tingling, and I started vomiting. I could hear the doctor order some kind of medicine for me and could feel the nurses helping me, but I was in my own world at that point.

Finally, I was being carted off to the operating room. I remember telling Drew that I’ve always wondered what it felt like to be rolled away to surgery. Now I don’t ever want to experience it again.

My doctor and the entire L&D staff were amazing. The c-section went well. It was, in fact, the cord wrapped around his neck, which actually makes me think that labor never would have started on its own anyway, especially since I was dilated for a whole month without making any further progress.

Westley came out with a big voice! And he was a super healthy 8 pounds, 20.5 inches. He’s built like a linebacker, I tell ya! And I’m definitely a proud mama because his Apgar score was 9.9, which is basically the best you can get since apparently no baby gets a full 10. In other words, he’s perfect!

Drew was such a proud parent in that OR. What a sweet sight to see tears in his eyes as he walked over and told me how beautiful our son is. I’m tearing up just remembering (but I’ve been doing a lot of crying lately, especially when I think about the birth…stupid hormones).

After 14 hours of labor and major abdominal surgery, Drew and I were so happy to welcome little Westley into the world. He stole our hearts in an instant and we will never be the same. Things may not have gone as planned, but I can’t help but think that this was really the plan all along…I just didn’t know it.

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the pregnancy card

Cases in which a pregnant lady is totally allowed to pull the “pregnancy card” and trump everyone else:

-freaking out and crying uncontrollably at work. no shame.

-laying around all day long, watching grey’s anatomy on netflix.

-wearing pajamas to the post office. say something.

-eating an entire chocolate cake.

-complaining because people won’t stop checking up on you. there’s a limit, people.

-having a little lice problem while 9 months pregnant. it happened. let’s move on and not talk about it.

-walking the dog every single day, but not “progressing” towards labor and getting poison oak instead. at 40 weeks. ouch.

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9.5 months…and a pie.

How insane is it that Westley is almost here? Its still crazy to me that pregnancy really lasts 10 months instead of 9. Why do people say 9 anyway?

Contrary to what I hear from most people near the end of they’re pregnancies, I don’t feel bad. In fact, I feel fantastic! There are, of course, moments when Westley decides to try to claw his way out (ouch) or my uterus decides that it’s time to do some contracting (been that way for a week now), but even those times are exciting because I know that they mean that he’ll be here soon. And by soon I mean that I don’t think I’ll still be pregnant on my due date of August 18. Mark my words, y’all.

And if you’re looking for a super easy and amazingly delicious summer pie, I suggest this lemon cream pie from Real Simple. My advice: get out the mixer and whip up the real whipped cream instead of the canned stuff. You have no idea what a difference it makes. You’re welcome. Also, eat it for breakfast and thank me later. Because breakfast calories never count.

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Dear Baby

7.21.2012

Dear Westley,

We will finally meet you in less than a month! I’ve had such a fun time playing with your little feet and rubbing your adorable tush, but I can’t wait to hold you in my arms.

We had an ultrasound yesterday. You are not only completely healthy and perfect, but we learned a few more things about you. First of all, you inherited my cute little button nose (thank goodness), but I’m sorry to tell you that you have your dad’s bony butt. It happens. You also have a little tuft of hair on top of your head, which I totally plan on styling into a Mohawk until you tell me otherwise. You like to hold onto your feet and play with your squirmy little toes. You currently weigh 5 pounds 12 ounces, and will weigh about 7.5 pounds when you’re born. And you are head down, which was a huge relief to know. Basically, you rule, kid.

Here’s something I didn’t need an ultrasound to know: you recognize your dad’s voice and it drives you crazy (in a good way). It never fails that you are insanely hyper and quite destructive when I’m sitting next to your dad at night. He already has such an effect on you. What a bond.

Love,

Mom

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Two Words: Retail Therapy

Oh my goodness. It really is amazing what purchasing a few feel-good items can do for your spirits. While I’m not quite ready to spill about what’s been keeping me quiet for the last week, I am totally willing to show you what is cheering me up!

I’ve been searching the internet for a chambray shirt for months. The kind of shirt that can go with anything and work in so many ways. I just couldn’t bring myself to spend over $70 on the perfect shirt, so today I finally settled for Forever 21′s version. I love that this will not only work as a cardigan-type item for the last month of pregnancy, but will be perfect for after the baby is here, cause it’s got that easy-access thing going for it. Word.

button tab chambray shirt // $22.90

The next two items are things that I’ve been wanting, but really just added to my cart to get free shipping. It happens, y’all.

n/w shoulder bag // $27.80

pointed patent flats // $16.80

I can’t wait for fall! And clothes that fit!

P.S. Know what else works for getting your mind off things? Waxing. I kid you not.

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The Phobia

Eighth grade was very traumatizing for me. Not for the typical, angsty teenage reasons, but for one that I’ve been ashamed to talk about, or even think about, until now. I’m still ashamed, but I’m writing this in the hopes that I can help myself get over this completely irrational fear and deal with the fact that I will probably have to revisit this situation when my son is in school.

So, eighth grade. When I think back to that year, I don’t really remember being bullied (but I was) or not having any friends (totally true) or being a crazy mix of teenage hormones (straight up crazy). No, the memory that really comes to mind is that time I had The Lice. I didn’t just have The Lice for a few days, y’all. It was bad. I had The Lice for months. MONTHS!

Let me back up. That year, we took a family vacation to the beach. We had a grand time, but when I got home I brought an itchy scalp back with me. I complained to my mom, but she told me it was all in my head. So it went on…and on…and ON.

Finally, MONTHS later, I’m sitting on the couch after school, scratching my head as usual (I bet you’re scratching your head right now), when I pulled my hand away and there was a BUG. A bug. On my finger. Just hanging out. I freaked, obviously.

Know what my mom did? She sent me to my dad’s. My dad and his girlfriend took care of me, made me feel like I wasn’t a nasty disease, and cured me of The Lice. Thank you, Dad. Seriously.

For years after The Lice, I was always scared of getting my hair cut, for fear of being told there was a bug in my hair. I cannot tell a lie.

Let’s fast forward to this week, shall we? The other day I washed my hair and, instead of drying it like usual, I just tossed it into a bun and went about my day. But that night, the itching began. That was two nights ago. I’ve had trouble sleeping because of it. I’m not one to have dandruff, but I took the hubs’ advice and used his fancy t-gel shampoo. Didn’t help. So I used it again today, just before googling everything I could about the symptoms of The Lice.

Bad idea, y’all. I just knew I had The Lice after that. So I waited for Drew to get home and I asked him to check my head. I then proceeded to relay to him my eighth grade story, which led to many tears and a major freak out. At first I blamed it on pregnancy hormones, but after he checked me and I calmed down, I realized something: THAT is my phobia! I’m deathly, irrationally afraid of The Lice. It’s called pediculophobia, if you must know. And I have it. Bad.

So the good news is, it doesn’t look like I have The Lice at the moment. The bad news is that Westley is sure to bring it home one day, and I’m going to have to be brave and NOT make my son feel dirty or that I’m scared of him. Early preparation is key, guys. And I’m getting a head start, seeing that he’s still in the womb and all.

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w & me

1. chambray shirt that goes with everything, including breastfeeding

2. wooden toy drum for the little guy to get his musical start in life

3. a book for those moments when my mommy brain runs out of ideas

4. august birthstone ring to represent westley on my right hand

5. one or two books to inspire my baby boy

6. easy-open dress to transition from summer to fall in style

7. every boy needs a striped shirt

8. eco-friendly wooden toy for those days that he wants his mouth on everything

9. a striped sweater with baby elbow patches? yes, please.

10. mint jeans. because, why not?

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Westley’s Simple Eclectic Nursery

The nursery is complete! To tell you the truth, I’ve been done with all of my crazy nesting for a few weeks now, but I was patiently waiting on Westley’s painting to arrive so that the room could finally be finished. One important thing to note about my choice of decor is that every single thing in this room has meaning. Sure, the modern nursery art you see so much of these days is super cute, but I wanted everything to have a purpose and a story. So what do you think?

Crib: Baby Mod Olivia from Walmart. Baby Mod is known for their modern nursery furniture. I saw this one and fell in love.

Painting: Made just for Westley by John Sandy. John is a fantastic artist and an old friend of the family. You can email him at johnsandy1153@yahoo.com if you are interested in some art of your own.

Chair: Best Chairs. This chair swivels, rocks and reclines. It is so comfortable for both me and Drew, which is a big deal because he is so tall that the back height really mattered.

Bird Pillow: An awesome flea market find!

Owl Night Light: Lamps Plus. How cute is that? Of course the birds had to represent in this room. Unfortunately, this night light and the pricier one at Land of Nod is no longer available.

Lamp: Target

Guitars: Drew and I both own guitars and thought that they would be the perfect addition to our tiny man’s room.

Book “Table”: All antique hand-me-downs, mostly about birds and art. My favorites!

“Have Big Dreams” Art: Handmade for Westley by a dear friend.

“As You Wish” Embroidered Circle: My mom ordered this for Westley, as a little reminder of his namesake from The Princess Bride. It was ordered from Etsy, but I’m having trouble finding the link to the store right now.

Antique Buffet: This beautifully worn down piece of furniture once belonged to my great-grandmother. Although she’s no longer able to know the amazing man that I married or meet her newest great-great-grandchild, there is still a piece of her in this room. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Solar System Mobile: Handmade by us. Pinterest, and our love for all things nerdy, definitely inspired us here. I used this as inspiration and this as a guide for making the planets.

Bike Spokes Painting: Also by me. One of my absolute favorites.

Platter: This was a Christmas gift from my grandmother. I knew it would make the perfect addition to the nursery, as well as help keep the changing area organized.

There you have it! I love this space so much already. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve just gone in there, sat down, and imagined my life with a little baby boy in my arms.

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Buffalo Chicken Taco Salad

 

Sometimes I just need my buffalo and bleu cheese cravings satisfied immediately. That’s when I make this. It’s ready in 20 minutes or less and is so stinkin’ yummy, you’ll kick yourself for not thinking of it before I did. Suckas! The fact that there are actual veggies cooked into the meat is an added bonus, especially if you hide them well enough to fool your little ones.

FYI: I fudged the measurements below. I don’t really measure things when I cook, but these look about right. So, um…good luck, ok?

Buffalo Chicken Taco Salad

Cook time: 20 minutes

Servings: 4-6

  • 2 pounds ground chicken
  • 1/2 cup chopped carrots
  • 1/2 cup chopped celery
  • 1/2 cup buffalo sauce
  • 1/2 cup water
  • tortilla chips
  • shredded lettuce
  • ranch or bleu cheese dressing

Cook the ground chicken, carrots and celery in a skillet until the chicken is done. Drain the chicken, then add buffalo sauce and water. Stir and let simmer until the mixture is the consistency of seasoned taco meat.

To serve, spoon the buffalo chicken mixture on top of crushed tortilla chips and top with lettuce and dressing, and even some more raw carrots and celery, if you prefer. Enjoy!

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Awkward and Awesome Moments

Awkward:

  • Having two people in one day look at my belly and say, “That baby’s not making it to August.” Gee, thanks for your input, DOCTOR!
  • Crying at the girly doctor’s office because I’m just tired and ill. That just wasn’t right at all.
  • Any type of bending over whatsoever.
  • Washing dishes. That’s tricky when the sink is farther away than usual, thanks to my gloriously round belly.
  • Accidentally letting it slip at dinner with the in-laws that I sleep in the nude these days. I’ll take Alex Trebek for $500 please.
  • Seeing the book above and almost buying it…because I really do need to know how NOT to kill my baby.

Awesome:

  • Random strangers saying “Congratulations!” or “You’re absolutely glowing!” while passing by. It’s like I’m a freakin’ parade in public places. People look and stare, and the nice ones shout compliments. I like it.
  • Wearing my pre-pregnancy jeans. So awesome.
  • Being so lazy I’m ashamed of myself, but allowing it because my life is about to change forever.
  • The Lost finale. I mean, really.
  • Drew proclaiming his admiration for the Biebs. I can’t even.
  • Eating a whole cake because I lost some weight. I gained it back, justsoyaknow.
  • Fresh cherries. And pineapple. (Still haven’t figured the mangos out.)
  • Going on summer evening walks with my little family.
  • The unconditional love and support I get from Drew about natural childbirth. He believes in me 100% and will do whatever it takes to help me accomplish my goal. Love that man.

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