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Westley: A Birth Story

What a month it’s been! The last few weeks of pregnancy were rough on me. So rough that by the time Westley was induced at 4 days overdue, 50% of my legs were covered in a rash (poison oak, PUPPS, something else?) and I was so incredibly miserable from that. Basically, my immune system gave up on me, so I scheduled the induction. Our story is one that still scares me to think about. It was the longest, hardest day of my life, but also the happiest. Our little family went through things that day that I will never forget.

The day before going to the hospital, I began having second thoughts. I was scared of being induced, worried about the possible complications, thought I was cheating my way into labor, and sad that I was taking away our “Oh my gosh, I’m in labor!” moment. In the end, I calmed down and let it happen as planned.

I was dilated to 2cm and 80% effaced for an entire month before getting induced, so as soon as they put me on the drip at 8am, I started contracting and my water broke on its own shortly thereafter. Y’all, I was so excited about my water breaking on its own! It was nice to have that moment of surprise in such a planned and scheduled event. the contractions got harder and I was progressing, slowly but surely.

By 4pm, the contractions were so intense and awful that I just KNEW I was already 10cm and ready to push. I mean, what I was feeling just HAD to be the end of labor. Keep in mind, I wanted an unmedicated birth, so I was feeling absolutely everything…and “everything” turned out to be super intense back labor. Fun times, let me tell you.

I told Drew to get the nurse because it hurt too much and it must be time to push. I cried when she checked me because of the pain, only to find out that I was just 4cm and nowhere near ready. That’s when I broke down and begged for an epidural. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I gave up on my unmedicated birth plan after 8 hours, but I was not upset with myself for it. I tried, which was what I wanted to do. I couldn’t have even gotten through the first hour without Drew by my side. He was the most amazing coach. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner to have gone through this with.

After the meds, things got so much better…for a little while. I was still progressing, but Westley had other plans. He was no closer to my birth canal at 7pm than when I came in 12 hours earlier. My doctor wanted to give it a little more time to see if that would change. She didn’t want to jump right into a c-section without absolutely trying everything else.

The next few hours are a blur to me. They were the most intense hours of my life. My blood pressure began to drop, which made me very sick. Also, Westley was in distress, causing the nurses to constantly move me every which way to hopefully alleviate his stress and get his heartbeat back on track. After a few hours of this and still no drop from our little man, the doctor came to the conclusion that the cord was most likely wrapped around his neck in such a way that it was keeping him from moving down. At 10pm, after 14 hours of labor, the decision was made to perform a c-section immediately.

That’s when things got really scary. This is when I had sort of an out of body experience. My doctor was in the middle of telling us all about the surgery when my BP dropped to the point that I became very ill. My body began to shake uncontrollably, my vision blurred, my arms and hands were tingling, and I started vomiting. I could hear the doctor order some kind of medicine for me and could feel the nurses helping me, but I was in my own world at that point.

Finally, I was being carted off to the operating room. I remember telling Drew that I’ve always wondered what it felt like to be rolled away to surgery. Now I don’t ever want to experience it again.

My doctor and the entire L&D staff were amazing. The c-section went well. It was, in fact, the cord wrapped around his neck, which actually makes me think that labor never would have started on its own anyway, especially since I was dilated for a whole month without making any further progress.

Westley came out with a big voice! And he was a super healthy 8 pounds, 20.5 inches. He’s built like a linebacker, I tell ya! And I’m definitely a proud mama because his Apgar score was 9.9, which is basically the best you can get since apparently no baby gets a full 10. In other words, he’s perfect!

Drew was such a proud parent in that OR. What a sweet sight to see tears in his eyes as he walked over and told me how beautiful our son is. I’m tearing up just remembering (but I’ve been doing a lot of crying lately, especially when I think about the birth…stupid hormones).

After 14 hours of labor and major abdominal surgery, Drew and I were so happy to welcome little Westley into the world. He stole our hearts in an instant and we will never be the same. Things may not have gone as planned, but I can’t help but think that this was really the plan all along…I just didn’t know it.

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the pregnancy card

Cases in which a pregnant lady is totally allowed to pull the “pregnancy card” and trump everyone else:

-freaking out and crying uncontrollably at work. no shame.

-laying around all day long, watching grey’s anatomy on netflix.

-wearing pajamas to the post office. say something.

-eating an entire chocolate cake.

-complaining because people won’t stop checking up on you. there’s a limit, people.

-having a little lice problem while 9 months pregnant. it happened. let’s move on and not talk about it.

-walking the dog every single day, but not “progressing” towards labor and getting poison oak instead. at 40 weeks. ouch.

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9.5 months…and a pie.

How insane is it that Westley is almost here? Its still crazy to me that pregnancy really lasts 10 months instead of 9. Why do people say 9 anyway?

Contrary to what I hear from most people near the end of they’re pregnancies, I don’t feel bad. In fact, I feel fantastic! There are, of course, moments when Westley decides to try to claw his way out (ouch) or my uterus decides that it’s time to do some contracting (been that way for a week now), but even those times are exciting because I know that they mean that he’ll be here soon. And by soon I mean that I don’t think I’ll still be pregnant on my due date of August 18. Mark my words, y’all.

And if you’re looking for a super easy and amazingly delicious summer pie, I suggest this lemon cream pie from Real Simple. My advice: get out the mixer and whip up the real whipped cream instead of the canned stuff. You have no idea what a difference it makes. You’re welcome. Also, eat it for breakfast and thank me later. Because breakfast calories never count.

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Two Words: Retail Therapy

Oh my goodness. It really is amazing what purchasing a few feel-good items can do for your spirits. While I’m not quite ready to spill about what’s been keeping me quiet for the last week, I am totally willing to show you what is cheering me up!

I’ve been searching the internet for a chambray shirt for months. The kind of shirt that can go with anything and work in so many ways. I just couldn’t bring myself to spend over $70 on the perfect shirt, so today I finally settled for Forever 21′s version. I love that this will not only work as a cardigan-type item for the last month of pregnancy, but will be perfect for after the baby is here, cause it’s got that easy-access thing going for it. Word.

button tab chambray shirt // $22.90

The next two items are things that I’ve been wanting, but really just added to my cart to get free shipping. It happens, y’all.

n/w shoulder bag // $27.80

pointed patent flats // $16.80

I can’t wait for fall! And clothes that fit!

P.S. Know what else works for getting your mind off things? Waxing. I kid you not.

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w & me

1. chambray shirt that goes with everything, including breastfeeding

2. wooden toy drum for the little guy to get his musical start in life

3. a book for those moments when my mommy brain runs out of ideas

4. august birthstone ring to represent westley on my right hand

5. one or two books to inspire my baby boy

6. easy-open dress to transition from summer to fall in style

7. every boy needs a striped shirt

8. eco-friendly wooden toy for those days that he wants his mouth on everything

9. a striped sweater with baby elbow patches? yes, please.

10. mint jeans. because, why not?

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Westley’s Simple Eclectic Nursery

The nursery is complete! To tell you the truth, I’ve been done with all of my crazy nesting for a few weeks now, but I was patiently waiting on Westley’s painting to arrive so that the room could finally be finished. One important thing to note about my choice of decor is that every single thing in this room has meaning. Sure, the modern nursery art you see so much of these days is super cute, but I wanted everything to have a purpose and a story. So what do you think?

Crib: Baby Mod Olivia from Walmart. Baby Mod is known for their modern nursery furniture. I saw this one and fell in love.

Painting: Made just for Westley by John Sandy. John is a fantastic artist and an old friend of the family. You can email him at johnsandy1153@yahoo.com if you are interested in some art of your own.

Chair: Best Chairs. This chair swivels, rocks and reclines. It is so comfortable for both me and Drew, which is a big deal because he is so tall that the back height really mattered.

Bird Pillow: An awesome flea market find!

Owl Night Light: Lamps Plus. How cute is that? Of course the birds had to represent in this room. Unfortunately, this night light and the pricier one at Land of Nod is no longer available.

Lamp: Target

Guitars: Drew and I both own guitars and thought that they would be the perfect addition to our tiny man’s room.

Book “Table”: All antique hand-me-downs, mostly about birds and art. My favorites!

“Have Big Dreams” Art: Handmade for Westley by a dear friend.

“As You Wish” Embroidered Circle: My mom ordered this for Westley, as a little reminder of his namesake from The Princess Bride. It was ordered from Etsy, but I’m having trouble finding the link to the store right now.

Antique Buffet: This beautifully worn down piece of furniture once belonged to my great-grandmother. Although she’s no longer able to know the amazing man that I married or meet her newest great-great-grandchild, there is still a piece of her in this room. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Solar System Mobile: Handmade by us. Pinterest, and our love for all things nerdy, definitely inspired us here. I used this as inspiration and this as a guide for making the planets.

Bike Spokes Painting: Also by me. One of my absolute favorites.

Platter: This was a Christmas gift from my grandmother. I knew it would make the perfect addition to the nursery, as well as help keep the changing area organized.

There you have it! I love this space so much already. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve just gone in there, sat down, and imagined my life with a little baby boy in my arms.

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Awkward and Awesome Moments

Awkward:

  • Having two people in one day look at my belly and say, “That baby’s not making it to August.” Gee, thanks for your input, DOCTOR!
  • Crying at the girly doctor’s office because I’m just tired and ill. That just wasn’t right at all.
  • Any type of bending over whatsoever.
  • Washing dishes. That’s tricky when the sink is farther away than usual, thanks to my gloriously round belly.
  • Accidentally letting it slip at dinner with the in-laws that I sleep in the nude these days. I’ll take Alex Trebek for $500 please.
  • Seeing the book above and almost buying it…because I really do need to know how NOT to kill my baby.

Awesome:

  • Random strangers saying “Congratulations!” or “You’re absolutely glowing!” while passing by. It’s like I’m a freakin’ parade in public places. People look and stare, and the nice ones shout compliments. I like it.
  • Wearing my pre-pregnancy jeans. So awesome.
  • Being so lazy I’m ashamed of myself, but allowing it because my life is about to change forever.
  • The Lost finale. I mean, really.
  • Drew proclaiming his admiration for the Biebs. I can’t even.
  • Eating a whole cake because I lost some weight. I gained it back, justsoyaknow.
  • Fresh cherries. And pineapple. (Still haven’t figured the mangos out.)
  • Going on summer evening walks with my little family.
  • The unconditional love and support I get from Drew about natural childbirth. He believes in me 100% and will do whatever it takes to help me accomplish my goal. Love that man.

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Dear Baby

6.19.2012

Dear Westley,

We need to have a talk. It seems that you don’t like me lately. There will be days that this is absolutely true, like when you’re grounded or I didn’t buy you that transformer you begged for in the store. But right now? I’m just trying to share my body with you and you keep beating me up. It hurts, little guy. Last week was much worse than this week, so I appreciate you taking a break from torturing mommy for a while.

I’ve been spending most of my time on the couch, enjoying the last lazy days I’ll probably ever have. It won’t be long before my days consist of nursing and cleaning poop and doing laundry and trying to figure out why the heck you’re crying. But for now, I’m lazy.

Less than 9 weeks. I can’t wait to meet you!

Love,

Mom

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I was THAT woman.

There I was. In a restaurant. Almost 8 months pregnant with 3 kids in tow.

It started out great. We ordered cheese dip and guacamole. Drew indulged in a margarita (jealous). The toddler was enjoying the cheese dip. All was well.

And then the communication issues set in. The little one obviously wanted something on the table. She wanted SOMETHING, but I just couldn’t figure out what it was. She was headed for a full-blown meltdown, and I was right there with her.

That’s when I turned into THAT woman. I barked out orders to the waitress, grabbed the tiny one, and frantically headed outside. I was not about to let those other nice, quiet patrons be disturbed one minute longer. Not on my watch.

When the tiny quesadilla was ready, we went back in and, like magic, all was well again. She sat there quietly, enjoying her cheesy dinner. It was a miracle, I tell ya.

When we got up to leave, I looked like one hot mess. There was cheese dip all over my black dress from tiny hands. My hair was wild. I was still recovering from my own meltdown. I’m pretty sure Drew was in shock from my reaction as well. I thought that surely I could not handle a toddler. What madness that would be!

And then this happened the next morning during cartoon time:

And I was reminded that I could totally handle it. As long as Drew is with me and we work together, and cherish these small precious moments, we could do it. We CAN do it.

 

 

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Dear Baby

6.08.2012

Dear Westley,

We’re only 10 weeks away from meeting you, as long as you aren’t stubborn and decide to stay in there a little longer. If you are anything like me, you’ll do whatever you want and nobody will change your mind. It’s a fun way to live, buddy. Just make sure you’re nice to people even when you are hard-headed. People tend to like nice people, despite their difficulties. Trust me on this one.

I feel like we are in this “getting to know each other” phase. I’m figuring out what makes you kick and squirm and you’re figuring out what my voice sounds like. You love it when I rub your back…I fear I’m spoiling you already with those back rubs.

Your nursery is just about ready, but we have all of the essentials. We are ready for you to make your arrival! Just keep cooking for now. I can’t wait to look into your beautiful eyes and tell you that I love you. Face to face.

Love,

Mom

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